dating a trans woman
Have you ever had that friend? You know, the one who couldn’t get over the fact they went out on a date with someone they didn’t know was transsexual until later. Or even the friend who’s mind is blown by the simple fact that they were even asked out on a date by someone who was transsexual. Then you have to have an unbelievably frustrating conversation with them that it shouldn’t and doesn’t matter if someone is transsexual. It always seems that though they consider themselves to be liberal people they always seem to say “I know it doesn’t matter but…..” But? But what? What’s the problem? It becomes a test of your patience when trying to not judge these friends BUT their mindsets are becoming archaic and it’s time to let go of that train of thought. So if you are in the dating scene be aware you one day you may unexpectedly get asked out or go on a date with someone who is transsexual so keep these things in mind:
Dating is Always a Little Scary for EVERYONE
The fear of rejection is typically in the back of most people’s minds when dating. Being turned away can hurt more than it should and YOU are no exception to that. Fear of rejection is typically the foundation of any possible insecurity when dating. It’s hard to not get nervous about saying or doing the wrong thing that can ruin a possible relationship and being transsexual isn’t anymore wrong than your natural hair color. If anything, you should respect and admire someone who is transsexual because that is actually a sign of bravery. So be aware that it could be YOU that will miss out on a chance for something better if you reject or can’t accept a person for being transsexual.
Fine, Let’s Be Shallow
How did you feel last time someone refused you over something physical? I know I certainly love it when someone won’t go on a date with me because they think I’m too heavy, oh wait no that really sucks actually. I’m more than my body aren’t I? I’ve heard people argue against this, believing that the physical part is not the issue when they shy away from dating a transsexual or even just someone who isn’t their preferred gender. But grow up. Because, let’s face it, this is a purely physical matter. People do love to say that it’s what’s on the inside that counts but the world has always struggled with actually applying that philosophy to dating; and until we actually can let’s at least try to be the least shallow as possible. Perhaps focus on the fact that there was an initial attraction between you before you knew they were were transsexual, so obviously something physically worked for you there so roll with it!
Sexuality is a Joke
“I’m not gay.” Doesn’t that statement sound like nails on a chalkboard? I cringe when people say they that as their reason to not go out with a transsexual. Guess what, they’re not either! Personally, I believe EVERYONE is actually bisexual and you just have to gauge which gender a person leans to. Most people have at least experienced some level of curiosity at the idea of being with someone that is not their typical gender preference. Some get experimental after a few drinks. And some people go for anything. But no matter how people have addressed their sexuality no one is all straight and no one is all gay.
In closing I’m going to state the painfully obvious: keep an open mind. I’m not trying to insult anyone’s intelligence by saying it, but it’s something that is far too easily forgotten by all. Keeping one really is essential when dating in the first place, and without one your progress will be slow.