Crossdresser dating is more popular than some people might think. Lots of people are crossdressers themselves, and they’re interested in dating other people who have a similar predilection. Naturally, the people who are into crossdressing are going to want people to accept them, and so they are going to try to select for people who are into crossdressing dating in the first place.
Crossdressing is interesting from a cultural perspective. For one thing, the people who are thought of as crossdressers today are usually men. Women who wear men’s clothing may be doing so for the sake of gender-bending, but it’s more socially acceptable for them to do that in public than it is for men to wear women’s clothing in public. Men’s clothing has largely become androgynous clothing. Women’s clothing is still largely gendered in today’s society.
As such, crossdressing dating is often going to involve a male crossdresser and a woman who is interested in male crossdressers. It may involve two male crossdressers. A heterosexual crossdressing couple may both include people who enjoy playing with gender, but the cultural perceptions of crossdressing are going to influence its effect on people and how it plays out in a relationship. The stereotype that all gay relationships involve one traditionally masculine man and one that is less so is inaccurate, and there are plenty of gay relationships where both parties are going to play with gender. These are some of the trends in crossdressing dating.
It should be noted that not all trans people are interested in crossdressing, and not all crossdressers are interested in transitioning. Plenty of people who play with gender are still comfortable with the gender that was assigned to them at birth. However, for other people, crossdressing is part of a transitional phase. Some trans people used to crossdress before they made their full transition.
When it comes to crossdress dating, it is important not to make any assumptions about the role of crossdressing in a person’s life or what he or she thinks about it in relationship to his or her gender. Many crossdressers will view it differently from an emotional perspective, and there are no overarching rules when it comes to the philosophy of crossdressing. The people who make those sort of assumptions, especially when those assumptions are based on prejudiced established cultural ideas, are probably going to end up alienating some of their potential dates.
It is important not to turn crossdressing into an obvious fetish during crossdressers dating. Obviously, people who are interested in this kind of dating are going to be interested in that as well. However, they’re going to be dating a person, and not simply an avatar of gender bending. People who are interested in gender bending are used to having their personality being reduced to that one facet of themselves, and when potential dates do that, it’s a barrier to a relationship. It is possible to be interested in gender bending in a respectful way, which is what non-crossdressers who are interested in crossdresser dating should remember.